What comes to mind when you hear the term “Shadow Work”?
Does it conjure up images of dark, scary, or forbidden places?
Maybe you’ve already seen people talking about it. That it’s what you’ve been avoiding, repressing, hiding, or storing deep in your unconscious. That “what you resist persists”. With that wording, you might decide that it’s not for you. Why would you want to explore the dark recesses of your unconscious? If they’re hidden away, why not just keep them there?
Well, the problem with keeping the unconscious stashed away is that it affects your conscious world. The shadow effect is what we often label as sabotage, fate, karma, or all the things in our lives we say we don’t like or want. Splitting this part off isn’t going to help us get to our conscious desires, it’s going to hold us back from what we say we really want.
It doesn’t have to be scary. Illuminating these parts of us that we kept tucked away is what liberates us, brings wholeness (healing) into our lives, and allows us to have more compassion for ourselves and others.
Shadow Work I think should be renamed Shadow Play. It requires getting curious, moving outside of normal patterns of thinking, imagination, and trying on new aspects of ourselves.
I especially love looking at Shadow Play as erotic. To bring online sensations and integrating through sexuality. Shadow Play is Tantric in nature; Tantra, meaning To Weave, we connect the unconscious with the conscious and free up tremendous creative potential that has been used to keep these aspects of our whole selves locked away. It’s bringing clarity, acceptance, love, and integration to every part of us.
We get to reclaim ourselves. The parts of us we were told weren’t acceptable, lovable, or that didn’t belong. We bring safety for all parts of us to exist. In doing so, we become a safer place for others to express their fullest selves. We get to bring a full spectrum of hues to paint with. It’s not just reclaiming parts we labeled as unworthy, it’s reclaiming parts of us that hold great power.
We get to love these parts. Playing with the fact that they exist because they wanted to help us; like small children, they just want to be heard.
Trying to heal, thrive, or be our fullest authentic selves without playing in our shadows and reclaiming these parts is like trying to ski with one arm and a broken leg. It’s the lightning path. When you illuminate, accept, and integrate these parts, your life transforms. You can no longer unsee the new awareness. Eventually you can laugh at everything and see the perfection of the world- including the things you and society have labeled as bad.
Some of my favorite resources for acquainting yourself with your shadow are listed below ⬇️
But if you’re ready for a customized approach that’s nourishing, sexy, and fast as lightning, you’ll get tremendous benefit from booking a session with me.
I’ve been studying shadow PLAY for over a decade and continue to acquaint, play with, and make love to my shadow parts. I’ve found methodologies that WORK and are actually reallllly fun. No hard work involved, just playful curiosity and love in a safe and loving environment.
Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott
The Shadow Effect by Deepak Chopra, Debbie Ford, and Marianne Williamson
The Shadow Effect DVD
The Right Questions by Debbie Ford